I have to confess to being a bit of a hoarder (see my previous post) much to my partner’s dismay!
I hold onto stuff in my compact home which does nothing to enhance my life, and if anything it restricts me by encroaching onto my precious space! I was watching TV (The One Show) and saw a feature with Jasmine Harman about her mother who is a serious hoarder and their journey together as Jasmine tried to help her mother overcome her attachment to all her stuff. This made me wonder about the psychology of hoarding and how really it seems related to attachment and addiction. Wishing to hold onto everything due to the memories it holds or how you ‘might need it in the future’ is how hoarders justify it to themselves while their often dismayed loved ones look on in confusion of their lifestyle choices.
On the BBC Show My Hoarder Mum and Me Jasmine says: “It’s very intense but they also feel a huge responsibility towards their possessions. They feel they’re saving these potentially useful items that have been discarded. In a way we could learn a lesson from that in our throwaway society; its good to reuse items but with hoarders it gets way out of hand!”
Jasmine continues to say how ashamed of her home she was whilst growing up and howshe is so delighted that since they have been working together to reduce the stuff her mother has been holding onto, their family could spend Christmas together for the first time in years as now they had the space for their large family and dogs!
It clearly has taken lots of love, patience and support to reach that point with her mother and it is an on-going battle. Thinking about how much better space is when filled with family and love rather than with lots of stuff collecting dust is enough to guilt any owner to tackle the “I must get around to sorting through that !” burden.
Changing our perspective
I think that we need to stand up to our stuff, stage an intervention, decide that this stuff which sits in piles unloved could be given a new home a chance at a second life and this can be done a number of ways. We need to move from a linear system to a cyclical one – see the video made by the Ellen Macarthur foundation on Circular Economy & the Story of Stuff to explore why this is important to us all.
Since I took some items to our Stuff for Free events (my old necklaces were greeted with whoops of excitement by some young girls at the event) I am beginning to see my things in a new way, I see how some things that I take for granted that are neglected for months could bring another person joy and try to think of the potential of having more space and less things. Most of all we need support from our loved ones to learn to let go and remember that:
Joy is not in things; it is in us. –Richard Wagner.
To get your started on your decluttering mission here are some ideas!
1) Store it!
- Stuff you want to keep but may not need on a daily basis could go in the loft, under the stairs cupboard (or create one – like I did) or in the garden shed – but don’t forget to label it!
- Try a #collabcons solution such as Storemates where you store stuff in your neighbours empty spaces.
2) Share or sell it:
- Take it to Stuff for Free events (the next one is in Islington from 23rd Feb-3rd March) or a Books for Free centre
- Share it via Streetbank is a site that helps you share and borrow things from your neighbours. Streetbank is meant for everyone. It is not for private benefit – for individuals to make a profit or professionals to sell their services.
- Sell some of your stuff via sites like eBay or at a car boot sale.
- Donate items to local charity shops / school jumble sales / local church or Salvation Army
- Upload them onto Freecycle / Freegle
- Jasmine’s organisation Help for Hoarders
- APDO-UK: the UK’s primary source for Decluttering and Organising services. www.apdo-uk.co.uk
- Selling service http://www.stuffusell.co.uk/how-it-works (recommended by Jasmine)
- Happiness project – Outer order contributes to inner calm. http://www.happiness-project.com/
- Read more about how our stuff is made via the Story of Stuff to explore why this is important to us all
- Watch the video made by the Ellen Macarthur foundation on Circular Economy
4) Decluttering tips
- Fun ideas to organise your home & stuff http://pinterest.com/healthyplanetuk/declutter-ideas/
- Check out this handy 5 Top Tips from a Professional Declutterer produced for Healthy Planet by a professional declutterer
- 15 tips http://zenhabits.net/15-great-decluttering-tips/
- Become a minimalist http://www.becomingminimalist.com/creative-ways-to-declutter/
Author: This blog was written by Dawn Newton Marketing Executive for Healthy Planet & keen upcycler. Connect on twitter @goreckidawn
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